The ideal qualities of a person

I am a man so anything I say is only going to be my opinion of what I feel are important qualities. I am straight btw so there is no confusion here. The list I am about to make would more or less be the same as a list of ideal qualities I would seek from a female I wanted to be in a relationship with.

Close to his family; I'm not talking mama's boy here but a guy who has a very close caring relationship with his parents is more likely to treat you well and your family well than a guy who is a total ass towards his family. It is also a clear indicator in many cases on how ready he is to be a good father to any future children that may come as a result of the relationship.

Compassion; a guy who is compassionate towards others is more than likely going to be compassionate towards you when you need him to be. Men who are incapable of showing compassion towards others usually turn out to be lousy choices for long term comitted relationships.

A great sense of humor; I am not saying you should be with a guy that finds every little thing funny. However life would suck big time being with someone who had absolutely no sense of humor at all and was serious about everything.

Intelligence: It is not necessary for you to seek out only card carrying members of Mensa. However you certainly don't want a guy who is capable of memorizing every little insignificant sports fact known to man but can't figure out the square root of 9 is 3.

Faithfulness; This should actually have been listed as the first quality. Now mind you you don't want a needy man who is going to be all clingy and everything. However if you find out a guy you are interested i has had 8 girlfriends in the last 6 months that would be a pretty good indicator that he is one night stand material but definitely not long term comitted relationship material.

Romantic; While it is not necessary to have a guy that romance novels are made of You do want someone who can be spontaneous and do sweet little things for you just because. Unromantic men are the biggest cause of their partner cheating on them. Guys tend to get into this comfort zone after being in a relationship for awhile where they think their partner knows they love them and they don't need to show it any more. However most women never get tired of being told how beautiful they are to their mate or having their mate do sweet little romantic things for them just because. When men stop doing that stuff women tend to take it personally and feel that the guy no longer loves them. Then along comes another guy who tells them all the things they long to hear and before you know it the boyfriend/husband is history.

In my opinion these qualities are way more important than how hot and hunky the guy is. Don't get me wrong it's not a crime to want someone that appeals to the eyses as well as the other senses but I think looks should be less of a priority.
As a man myself, I know it is important to pick a right female partner. I see the beauty of a woman is not in the clothes she wears, the figure that she carries, or the way she combs her hair. The true beauty of a woman must be seen in her eyes, because that is the doorway to her heart - the place where love resides.

Likewise, a woman should also know how to pick her ideal male partner. All the while, I thought it was true love of the man was good enough for all women. Until I met an intelligent attractive lady who enlightened me further. She said, getting a man who could shower her with true love alone isn't sufficient. Most important her partner has to be intelligent, kind, fun, good hearted, understanding, motivated and lovable. WoW! Love alone isn't good. The man can be intelligent but can he creates fun and excitement or offer humour to make her laughs when she is sad. The man can be smart but does he cares and has concern for others. He can be rich but has he the understanding of life and offer humanity. Has he got the confidence to motivate and advise. Is he an all rounder of being a likable and lovable person.

Gentlemen there! Man looks at women but ladies look at us too. Is not easy to be a true lover to an ideal intelligent attractive lady either. Before I left, I asked her,"My dear, do I qualify to be that ideal man?
This book is for women who want to be more Cinderella than Cruella De Vil, but this book is not just about living happily ever after. It's a thoughtful look at the wonderful, unique, and God-ordained role a woman has in her husband's life. Author Sharon Jaynes surveyed hundreds of men and conducted countless interviews. In them she asked these important questions:

* How would you describe the woman of your dreams?
* What does your wife do well that other women learn from?
* What has been you greatest struggle in your marriage?
* How could your wife help alleviate that problem?
* What is one thing you wish women understood about what a man wants in the woman of his dreams?

Seven qualities came up over and over again as men honestly shared their responses. The woman of a man's dreams prays for him, respects him, adores him, initiates intimate friendship with him, sees him as second to none, encourages him, and sexually fulfills him. Also included is a study guide, which makes this book perfect for individuals or groups of women wanting to be all God has called them to be in the lives of the men they love.

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